Timeline for What do we do when a popular answer doesn't seem to directly address the question?
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| May 2, 2014 at 21:51 | comment | added | Dom | @Denis You're just another user that doesn't yet share the community spirit. One of the cornerstones of SE's success imo, is the friendliness and respect given to everyone without discrimination. You're not here to tell people 'this is how it is, you dumbasses', and we never asked you to come and do that. Give an answer when you have something constructive to say and never insult anyone, even if they've insulted you. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 17:42 | comment | added | deworde | @Denis That's quite a leap to make based on the question though. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 13:50 | comment | added | Joe | @Denis That's most certainly well beyond the scope of this site. One of the keys to giving good parenting advice is assuming that other parents have other methods of doing things, and those are okay. If they ask for advice on a particular thing, give it, but do not challenge other aspects they do not ask for advice on. You are not a social worker and you are not a psychiatrist (at least, of this parent); it is not your job to make such judgments. Every parent will have differences of opinion on how some things are done. Offer advice in this spirit, or not at all. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 12:40 | comment | added | Denis de Bernardy | @deworde - It's merely analogous, with one big difference: On this particular SE, a poor child may very well be on the receiving end of an obsessive compulsive sociopath. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 11:08 | comment | added | deworde | @Denis There are better ways of suggesting "This fight may not be a key one to fight"; including asking "Why do you feel like you have to prevent this?", than going "Well she's just spiteful and controlling, this wouldn't bother me". If someone asked a question about bad practice on Programmers, and the response was "Deal with it, n00b, you just have to do dirty hacks all the time, it's good programming to ignore the return value in this instance, why are you complaining, this wouldn't bother me?", it'd be downvoted into obscurity. This is the equivalent. Even if it's true, it's unhelpful. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 10:49 | comment | added | user420 | I've removed the unnecessary insults from your post. Insults such as you included are not welcome on parenting, or any other SE site. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 10:48 | history | edited | user420 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| May 2, 2014 at 10:45 | comment | added | user420 | The purpose of this site is to help parents become better parents. If the only input someone can provide is to insult or belittle other people, not only are the people asking for help unlikely to listen (or return), it is unlikely that the advice being offered is all that good. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 9:57 | comment | added | Denis de Bernardy | @deworde: The thing this site should be concerned about is the implied mission statement expressed in this thread and the aforementioned one on soapboxing: that in the name of Truth, Helpfulness and Q&A Format, it is preferable to cheerlead and help parents in their misled behaviors instead of calling them out on them. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 8:51 | comment | added | deworde | -1: Basically dismissing what could be a real diagnosis, dismissing the asker as "spiteful" and "controlling" when she comes to the site for help, this basically demonstrates the exact attitude that @Beofett seems concerned about. | |
| May 2, 2014 at 7:23 | history | answered | Denis de Bernardy | CC BY-SA 3.0 |