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While HedgeMage's answers has long been our standard for answers that argue with the premise, I think we've been exposed now to a potential exception to this rule:

##When the question is about solving interpersonal issues, such as conflict resolution or communicating to others.

The thing is, we're already considering these types of answers as acceptable on a case-by-case basis, apparently. "How can I say?" or "How do I tell?" questions inevitably garner answers along the lines of "Don't, and here's why..." or "Don't, and here's what to do instead"

How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?

How to spank in public without having everyone around you assume you're a child abuser?

How should a stepfather respond to "You are not my Father!"?

Teaching children how to fight back

The reason why these types of questions attract counter-points as answers is because, by the nature of the question, the user is seeking the best way to navigate an interpersonal situation. They're not always about enacting the proposed solution, but solving the underlying problem. That is, they're a type of XY problem.

Unlike some of the other types of answers that argue with the premise, these responses are given as the best way to navigate social and family dynamics faced by parents and children. I would say that, as a community, we already recognize that these answers are a good way to resolve the problem, and even get accepted by the person asking the question.

I think we should make this an "official" exception, so it's not a grey area or one looked at on a case-by-case basis anymore. As it stands now, some upvoted answers of this type have been deleted or greatly altered for having a stance counter to the actual question. I would say this is not uniformly applied.

To reiterate for clarity, this exception would only be for resolving interpersonal issues, not other types of problems. Common tags we see on these types of questions are communication and conflict, but such questions aren't necessary limited to those tags. Other tags, such as relationships and fighting have questions that would be of the same nature, but are generally asked in a more open-ended manner than clearly indicates they are okay with answers to "...and should I?".

The caveat would be if the user's original question specifically states they don't want such advice.

While HedgeMage's answers has long been our standard for answers that argue with the premise, I think we've been exposed now to a potential exception to this rule:

When the question is about solving interpersonal issues, such as conflict resolution or communicating to others.

The thing is, we're already considering these types of answers as acceptable on a case-by-case basis, apparently. "How can I say?" or "How do I tell?" questions inevitably garner answers along the lines of "Don't, and here's why..." or "Don't, and here's what to do instead"

How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?

How to spank in public without having everyone around you assume you're a child abuser?

How should a stepfather respond to "You are not my Father!"?

Teaching children how to fight back

The reason why these types of questions attract counter-points as answers is because, by the nature of the question, the user is seeking the best way to navigate an interpersonal situation. They're not always about enacting the proposed solution, but solving the underlying problem. That is, they're a type of XY problem.

Unlike some of the other types of answers that argue with the premise, these responses are given as the best way to navigate social and family dynamics faced by parents and children. I would say that, as a community, we already recognize that these answers are a good way to resolve the problem, and even get accepted by the person asking the question.

I think we should make this an "official" exception, so it's not a grey area or one looked at on a case-by-case basis anymore. As it stands now, some upvoted answers of this type have been deleted or greatly altered for having a stance counter to the actual question. I would say this is not uniformly applied.

To reiterate for clarity, this exception would only be for resolving interpersonal issues, not other types of problems. Common tags we see on these types of questions are communication and conflict, but such questions aren't necessary limited to those tags. Other tags, such as relationships and fighting have questions that would be of the same nature, but are generally asked in a more open-ended manner than clearly indicates they are okay with answers to "...and should I?".

The caveat would be if the user's original question specifically states they don't want such advice.

While HedgeMage's answers has long been our standard for answers that argue with the premise, I think we've been exposed now to a potential exception to this rule:

##When the question is about solving interpersonal issues, such as conflict resolution or communicating to others.

The thing is, we're already considering these types of answers as acceptable on a case-by-case basis, apparently. "How can I say?" or "How do I tell?" questions inevitably garner answers along the lines of "Don't, and here's why..." or "Don't, and here's what to do instead"

How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?

How to spank in public without having everyone around you assume you're a child abuser?

How should a stepfather respond to "You are not my Father!"?

Teaching children how to fight back

The reason why these types of questions attract counter-points as answers is because, by the nature of the question, the user is seeking the best way to navigate an interpersonal situation. They're not always about enacting the proposed solution, but solving the underlying problem. That is, they're a type of XY problem.

Unlike some of the other types of answers that argue with the premise, these responses are given as the best way to navigate social and family dynamics faced by parents and children. I would say that, as a community, we already recognize that these answers are a good way to resolve the problem, and even get accepted by the person asking the question.

I think we should make this an "official" exception, so it's not a grey area or one looked at on a case-by-case basis anymore. As it stands now, some upvoted answers of this type have been deleted or greatly altered for having a stance counter to the actual question. I would say this is not uniformly applied.

To reiterate for clarity, this exception would only be for resolving interpersonal issues, not other types of problems. Common tags we see on these types of questions are communication and conflict, but such questions aren't necessary limited to those tags. Other tags, such as relationships and fighting have questions that would be of the same nature, but are generally asked in a more open-ended manner than clearly indicates they are okay with answers to "...and should I?".

The caveat would be if the user's original question specifically states they don't want such advice.

While HedgeMage's answers has long been our standard for answers that argue with the premise, I think we've been exposed now to a potential exception to this rule:

##When the question is about solving interpersonal issues, such as conflict resolution or communicating to others.

The thing is, we're already considering these types of answers as acceptable on a case-by-case basis, apparently. "How can I say?" or "How do I tell?" questions inevitably garner answers along the lines of "Don't, and here's why..." or "Don't, and here's what to do instead"

How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?

How to spank in public without having everyone around you assume you're a child abuser?

How should a stepfather respond to "You are not my Father!"?

Teaching children how to fight back

The reason why these types of questions attract counter-points as answers is because, by the nature of the question, the user is seeking the best way to navigate an interpersonal situation. They're not always about enacting the proposed solution, but solving the underlying problem. That is, they're a type of XY problem.

Unlike some of the other types of answers that argue with the premise, these responses are given as the best way to navigate social and family dynamics faced by parents and children. I would say that, as a community, we already recognize that these answers are a good way to resolve the problem, and even get accepted by the person asking the question.

I think we should make this an "official" exception, so it's not a grey area or one looked at on a case-by-case basis anymore. As it stands now, some upvoted answers of this type have been deleted or greatly altered for having a stance counter to the actual question. I would say this is not uniformly applied.

To reiterate for clarity, this exception would only be for resolving interpersonal issues, not other types of problems. Common tags we see on these types of questions are communication and conflict, but such questions aren't necessary limited to those tags. Other tags, such as relationships and fighting have questions that would be of the same nature, but are generally asked in a more open-ended manner than clearly indicates they are okay with answers to "...and should I?".

The caveat would be if the user's original question specifically states they don't want such advice.

While HedgeMage's answers has long been our standard for answers that argue with the premise, I think we've been exposed now to a potential exception to this rule:

##When the question is about solving interpersonal issues, such as conflict resolution or communicating to others.

The thing is, we're already considering these types of answers as acceptable on a case-by-case basis, apparently. "How can I say?" or "How do I tell?" questions inevitably garner answers along the lines of "Don't, and here's why..." or "Don't, and here's what to do instead"

How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?

How to spank in public without having everyone around you assume you're a child abuser?

How should a stepfather respond to "You are not my Father!"?

Teaching children how to fight back

The reason why these types of questions attract counter-points as answers is because, by the nature of the question, the user is seeking the best way to navigate an interpersonal situation. They're not always about enacting the proposed solution, but solving the underlying problem. That is, they're a type of XY problem.

Unlike some of the other types of answers that argue with the premise, these responses are given as the best way to navigate social and family dynamics faced by parents and children. I would say that, as a community, we already recognize that these answers are a good way to resolve the problem, and even get accepted by the person asking the question.

I think we should make this an "official" exception, so it's not a grey area or one looked at on a case-by-case basis anymore. As it stands now, some upvoted answers of this type have been deleted or greatly altered for having a stance counter to the actual question. I would say this is not uniformly applied.

To reiterate for clarity, this exception would only be for resolving interpersonal issues, not other types of problems. Common tags we see on these types of questions are communication and conflict, but such questions aren't necessary limited to those tags. Other tags, such as relationships and fighting have questions that would be of the same nature, but are generally asked in a more open-ended manner than clearly indicates they are okay with answers to "...and should I?".

The caveat would be if the user's original question specifically states they don't want such advice.

While HedgeMage's answers has long been our standard for answers that argue with the premise, I think we've been exposed now to a potential exception to this rule:

##When the question is about solving interpersonal issues, such as conflict resolution or communicating to others.

The thing is, we're already considering these types of answers as acceptable on a case-by-case basis, apparently. "How can I say?" or "How do I tell?" questions inevitably garner answers along the lines of "Don't, and here's why..." or "Don't, and here's what to do instead"

How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

What is a polite way to ask others not to comment on baby girl only for her looks?

How to spank in public without having everyone around you assume you're a child abuser?

How should a stepfather respond to "You are not my Father!"?

Teaching children how to fight back

The reason why these types of questions attract counter-points as answers is because, by the nature of the question, the user is seeking the best way to navigate an interpersonal situation. They're not always about enacting the proposed solution, but solving the underlying problem. That is, they're a type of XY problem.

Unlike some of the other types of answers that argue with the premise, these responses are given as the best way to navigate social and family dynamics faced by parents and children. I would say that, as a community, we already recognize that these answers are a good way to resolve the problem, and even get accepted by the person asking the question.

I think we should make this an "official" exception, so it's not a grey area or one looked at on a case-by-case basis anymore. As it stands now, some upvoted answers of this type have been deleted or greatly altered for having a stance counter to the actual question. I would say this is not uniformly applied.

To reiterate for clarity, this exception would only be for resolving interpersonal issues, not other types of problems. Common tags we see on these types of questions are communication and conflict, but such questions aren't necessary limited to those tags. Other tags, such as relationships and fighting have questions that would be of the same nature, but are generally asked in a more open-ended manner than clearly indicates they are okay with answers to "...and should I?".

The caveat would be if the user's original question specifically states they don't want such advice.