I am an adoptive parent, and when I went through the required education seminars prior to adopting, it was stressed that our choice of language can have a big effect on the perception of our children and those around us, and even of ourselves.
Now, several years after adopting my children, I find myself cringing when I see questions like How do I tell my nine year old that his dad isn't his dad and that his biological father died before he was born?
It's not because it's a bad question (in fact, I think it's an excellent question), but because it makes the assumption that anyone who doesn't contribute DNA is not a "real" father.
Words not only convey facts, they also evoke feelings. When a TV show or movie talks about a "custody battle" between "real parents" and "other parents," society gets the wrong impression that only birth parents are real parents and that adoptive parent's aren't real parents. Members of society may also wrongly concluded that all adoptions are "battles."
Positive adoption language can stop the spread of misconceptions such as these. By using adoption language, we educate others about adoption. We choose emotionally "correct" words over emotionally-laden words. We speak and write in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting others so that this language will someday become the norm.
The link above also provides a list of "Positive vs. Negative" language when it comes to adoption.
So my question is this:
Should we actively encourage "Positive Adoption Language" on this site?
Should we edit questions and answers that do not use "Positive Adoption Language" in the interests of promoting a better understanding of adoptive relationships?