At this moment, the most popular question on our site is this question about a confiscated device. At the time of writing this, it has received around 30,000 views! That's amazing, right?! The question has been great for our traffic stats (analytics say so) but I then ask the question, was the reception of this question good for the OP?
As soon as the question went "Hot" it seems a lot of new users jumped on to the site (which is great) to criticize the OP for how they handled the situation (which is not great). This topic comes up here at Parenting quite a bit. The common topic of how to treat OP, respectively, carefully, and when answering, never deviating from the premise of the question.
Parenting is hard. I find what makes it harder is when anonymous Internet users who are supposed to be courteous skate the lines of being courteous by judging your ability as a parent.
The OP of the original question has deleted their account for unknown reasons but I can only imagine due to the bad taste left in their mouth by the one-off users who visit us when a question goes "Hot". The question mentioned here specifically irritates me because once the bandwagon started of "your parenting is horrible" without further information of OP, it began to slide quickly towards OP bashing rather than providing information that was helpful. The problem was that people assumed information that didn't exist or wasn't provided by the OP.
Now my feature-request is perhaps a little overboard and it is satirical in nature but honestly, how can we stop this? How can we be welcoming? How are parents and children going to be able to come to this website and ask the important stuff if they are completely bombarded with assumptions, accusations, and judgement? How do we ask users to confide in us without driving them away?