It seems to be closed 'because this is not a question about parenting', but, ostensibly, i'm asking about parenting strategies. I'm really confused.
You seem to be asking for a discussion - this is not a discussion forum, it is a fairly strict kind of question and answer site, so you need to provide a well-formed, on-topic question that has a definitive answer we can give.
I don't think edits will be sufficient, the basic premise doesn't match what Stack Exchange is set up to do.
Have a good read of our help pages and look at highly upvoted questions and answers - that should give you an idea how the site works.