Last week, I've been dealing with this question. It was about the behaviour of a grand-father against a sick child. The author was the father of the child and the son-in-law of the grandfather.
My answer consisted of:
- a checking mechanism for the sickness of the child, and indeed: it was not that bad after all.
- a reflection of the childhood of the grandfather.
- a reflection of the actual behaviour of the grandfather, that behaviour was not that bad as firstly described.
The author commented on my answer, mostly admitting that I have a point (but the author keeps on insisting, and the author has the absolute right to do that).
It all comes down to "The times, they are a-changing." :-)
I edit my answer, congratulating the author with his good attitude. I received an upvote for my answer. Until then, everything ok.
But then, a moderator intervenes, claiming that my answer is not nice.
The author has written a question, I have answered, the author reacted, I reacted back and the author upvoted my answer, which means that we are in agreement.
When two people agree on the results of a discussion, it is completely wrong for any third party to intervene! So, please, moderator: if you believe any rule being broken, first verify with the "victim", and only if he (or she) agrees, it's ok to take an action.