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I've locked the post until a consensus can be come to. In general, such substantive edits should not be made without the author's consent. Personally, I felt in this case that an unfiltered experience is important to share, and may be helpful to someone in the future, even if it's uncomfortable to read. If you disagree with the conclusions, you should ...


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Yes, it's acceptable. I don't have to like it, but free speech is free speech. Excellent question, and a difficult one! This is a prime example of how our site is much more subjective than other SE sites. I don't think we can decide that people are not allowed to post certain content, even if we disagree with that content. Censorship is a slippery slope ...


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If you read her entire post it is well balanced, definitely not a rant in any way. She was obviously sensitive enough to others that she was worried in case it did come across that way, hence the disclaimer. I'd suggest the post could be improved simply by removing that last line - it isn't a rant, and in fact is a well thought out post. Excluding the ...


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I can think of a variety of reasons that an OP might want to restrict answers in some fashion. Attempting to create a community wiki (your 1st example) Reinforcing existing standards, particularly for a topic which may be prone to strong feelings-based answers providing objective answers (your 2nd example) not arguing with the premise (e.g. "I'm not ...


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I feel that in the linked case (and similar cases) the answer should stay. Typically, voting will correctly adjust visibility of the answer up/down appropriately. The answerer was attempting to answer the question - they were trying to adjust the point of view to show that perhaps the parent was approaching the issue in the wrong way, which is a perfectly ...


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Please forgive me if I meander a bit, but your question asks more than it seems on the surface to ask. The Stack Exchange model is not discussion based, but a straightforward Question and Answer model: Ask questions, get answers, no distractions where the best answers tend to be to the point, precise and informative. This is an enlightening video on ...


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Generally, this policy is largely driven by What should we advise when one disagrees with the premise of a question? (which is, paraphrased, don't answer if you disagree with the premise). Parenting tends to be more strict about questioning the premise than the average StackExchange site, but we also tend to get more emotional or philosophical issues than ...


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Additionally to anongoodnurse's answer, I left you a note when I edited your post to tell you it was because of the anecdotal paragraph - and this was precisely one of the reasons you ended up with your previous suspension. You have posted quite a few answers with good content, hence your Rep score, but when you add extraneous anecdotal information it can ...


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This particular post aside, assuming the edits to the answer are appropriate - ie, are not changing the tenor of the post nor the substance, but are changes to improve readability or similar - the OP does not have a particular right to not have edits made. The correct thing to do in this case if the OP reverts what you consider an entirely valid edit (and ...


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I agree with everything Beofett says in his answer up until the statement, "Down-vote them if you think they offer harmful advice." In general, I have understood the policy on voting to be that it is up to the user how to apply down-votes etc, but that generally reserving down-votes for questions and answers that are poorly formed or unsubstantiated is what ...


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I just want to add that I agree with Karl Bielefeldt and Joe. @Random Guy, I saw that you did answer, but you also wanted to make his answer more like yours - to suit your sense of decorum. That's not what edits are for. Far better to interact with the poster in comments, or, also an option, to answer it yourself with a better answer. Down vote the answer ...


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There are a number of cognitive biases that make anecdote unreliable; and a number of reasons that make an accurate anecdote irrelevant to a correct answer. Anecdote distracts from evidence. Opinion and anecdote do serve some useful purpose on SE. When a parent is goin through a distressing experience; or when a parent is discussing something that is ...


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I'd be remiss not to start with a quote from Good Subjective, Bad Subjective: Parenting is one of the most subjective subjects I can imagine; every child is different, every parent is different, and whole cultures are wildly different in how they approach child rearing. The entire post is worth reading as is the original Back It Up! principle. But the ...


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I'm worried that posting a factual, valid answer rooted in this would be met with heavy hostility at best, and moderated out at worst (including suspension), either because people assume that "be nice" policy means "fully support and validate everyone's lifestyle choice, even when science says otherwise"... I don't think you fully understand the role of ...


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I think how you use Bible verses matters. I don't think quoting appropriate Bible verses is banned on any Stack Exchange site, but (and I'm not saying you have this intention) exangelizing may be seen as a kind of spamming, and may be removed if it detracts from your answer. This is no different in policy than for someone who, for instance, goes on and on ...


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There are a number of ways that one might become a single parent. A woman has a baby through artificial insemination. A woman has a one-night stand and has a baby. A woman gets raped and has a baby. A committed couple has a baby, and then: one parent dies. one parent leaves the family. the relationship degrades and the parents split up. one parent leaves ...


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I was the source of the upvoted comment, I suspect, and want to clarify my particular stance on that answer, as well as in general. On that answer, I didn't feel it was "not an answer" explicitly. I didn't flag it, and didn't even downvote it. I think it is a poor answer, and would be better as a comment, because of the lack of providing additional ...


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I think in that particular case, the purpose of that line wasn't to suggest it might not be a good quality post - that poster is very well aware of what makes a good quality post. The purpose of that line was to make sure the OP didn't take the answer as an attack on the original asker. Posting a question "This seems weird to me, is it okay for X to do ...


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Certainly I think that requiring research-backed answers is appropriate and welcome; if someone is asking for research we should endeavor to provide such. We're a bit more "opiniony" than most sites, and that means a lot of our answers tend to be personal narratives and opinion; we should enable users who want facts to get those when needed. Scope-narrowing ...


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You are correct in thinking that one-line answers - unless they are actually a decent (though very brief) answer - are not a good fit for any SE site. My deletion of the first linked to answer is evidence of that. Usually we add a post notice to such answers if they contribute anything at all. If they are not edited, ideally after ample time, they will be ...


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This is similar to other answers here in that I fully support the idea that OP should be able to restrict the scope of possible answers to their question. To add to list of possible reasons that @Erica's answer provided, an OP may want to restrict because: They already researched the question, and are familiar with "obvious" answers (and posting such ...


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It's been said already in comments, but I think we are sufficiently different. I did peruse the site on two different days, and found significant differences. One is that we would close (and eventually delete) a number of questions that appear there, such as: Why do single mothers think there [sic] capable of raising their sons alone? ("...let's fact [...


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I don't downvote for content, so one downvote you got was from me because of the framing of the answer. Given the OP's comment on your answer that he felt it attacked the premise of the question, that is a likely source of a second downvote. A third was for "ignoring the actual question" (ref. DanBeale's answer below). So that's at least 3/4 because of the ...


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That answer rejects the premise of the question - which is already user hostile and should probably be avoided. But, worse, it is rude and dismissive. It's not an answer and should be deleted.


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That post notice was from me. I should probably have added a further comment now I look at it - sorry: You made 2 points that really need more info: If it satisfies him then you know he is not addicted to sugar itself. which doesn't appear to have any scientific grounding here. And your suggestion that you should provide children with artificial ...


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Asking here on meta, as you've done, is probably the best approach. Additionally, you can add a comment to the answer itself requesting clarification on what information needs a reference. There is a comment on the question answers here will require references to back up medical claims, that might be a clue. If I had to guess, the only line in your answer ...


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