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Please forgive me if I meander a bit, but your question asks more than it seems on the surface to ask. The Stack Exchange model is not discussion based, but a straightforward Question and Answer model: Ask questions, get answers, no distractions where the best answers tend to be to the point, precise and informative. This is an enlightening video on ...


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Additionally to anongoodnurse's answer, I left you a note when I edited your post to tell you it was because of the anecdotal paragraph - and this was precisely one of the reasons you ended up with your previous suspension. You have posted quite a few answers with good content, hence your Rep score, but when you add extraneous anecdotal information it can ...


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Those comments are not being maliciously deleted - the moderator team has been removing them as they count as noise. This question has received a really high number of comments - and in order to limit this we have been deleting as many as possible (76 so far) and recommending that people use the chatroom which has been setup specifically for this post. ...


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There are a number of cognitive biases that make anecdote unreliable; and a number of reasons that make an accurate anecdote irrelevant to a correct answer. Anecdote distracts from evidence. Opinion and anecdote do serve some useful purpose on SE. When a parent is goin through a distressing experience; or when a parent is discussing something that is ...


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This has already been asked on MetaSE. To sum that up a little bit, if the comment warrents flagging, flag it. If it doesn't, don't. If there is something wrong about that comment, feel free to add your own comment pointing out what is wrong. People can upvote your comment as well so it will be more visible in a long thread. After you have done all you ...


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Comments are for clarification, that's it, really, especially on an HNQ, which can get 40+ comments. Your comment was partly asking for clarification and mostly an answer (by suggestion and by direct answer), so it was moved to chat with the others. Every comment after a thread has been moved to chat is deleted, especially meta comments like "Why was my ...


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As a moderator, I typically only suggest that when a comment thread starts getting very long -- when many users (particularly on a HNQ [hot network question]) start chiming in. That can make discussion difficult to follow. The reason we try to reduce reliance on comments: It's important for additional details from the OP (e.g. "I'm in the United States" or ...


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Users can only edit comments for a limited period of time (I believe some handful of minutes). However, moderators can edit comments at any time, so I fixed your typo for you :)


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The number of parenting questions which can potentially concern themselves with cannibalism, slavery, rape, abortion, or gay marriage is unsurprisingly somewhat limited. We aren't Law, History, or Philosophy. However, some examples are easily found with a quick search: There are two questions about rape (how to explain it to a young child, how to help a ...


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Comming at this "raw" as it were, I've read through the full transcript (and as a mod I do have full visibility of deleted content as well) and some thoughts from me: I understand your point, that you weren't posting "offensive" content, however those comments are considered emotionally charged by the majority, and in a comment context are at best ...


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Comments are not the place for answers. Encouraging answers in the comments in any setting is just teaching people (especially new users in this case) that it is ok. It also shows that when we are protecting a question it really doesn't do much. It just forces new users to answer in comments instead of the answer box. It's not much of a moderation tool ...


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No, I don't believe they should. I think this is an issue likely related to hot network questions, troll offerings, or trigger-type questions, the handling of which reflects on our community as a whole. Having highly emotional and negative comments - which are likely on the above type questions - gives this site an "anything goes" atmosphere, not one of ...


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If someone thinks an answer would be strengthened by including a link, is it better to criticize the answer in a comment below the answer, or edit the question to add the link the critic is saying is needed? It depends. In general, users are encouraged to compose good answers themselves without needing community support to complete the job. "What is your ...


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Stack Exchange is not for comments. It is for Questions and Answers. Comments are intended for asking for clarification, and are usually temporary - deleted once clarifications/updates are made. So we don't want to encourage comments. This has been answered on an SE-wide meta post. Core from that post: Comments If we allowed all users to write comments, ...


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I am new to Parenting.se, but not to SE in general. I think this site is about average (in my limited experience) in the quality and quantity of comments (though much friendlier), and see no problem with them now. Sometimes people don't want to answer a question and are happy to add a tidbit to an already existing answer. I am most active on English ...


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I was actually thinking last night as I was falling asleep that I should take a good look at this answer and comments first thing in the morning and try to clean it up and sort it out, largely by deleting that exchange of comments. It is messy, distracting, and not conducive to either participant reaching an understanding. In the meantime, this meta question ...


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Just to add something to @anongoodnurse's excellent answer: Once a set of comments has been moved to chat, no more comments can be on that particular post (question or answer). So, once we've chosen to move the comments to chat, the expectation is that chat is where you go if you want any further clarification or really anything else - we can't move ...


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Great question! Thanks for asking it. (+1) Sorry I didn't see it before now. (Our notification system failed me.) Here's the comment in toto: No offense intended but this advice, while logically sound, seems to fail in reality. What kid control's their sugar intake by free will? What drug addict never had a single person tell them drugs are bad? I agree ...


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The question being protected has no bearing on how it should be moderated as far as 'answer comments' go. If it's protected, it's to make it easier for you and us to moderate it - by not attracting garbage, basically. If someone has something useful to say, well, they'll have that in a few days, right? Protection shouldn't last forever - we should probably ...


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For new users with question problems: Hi, and welcome! Though this is an interesting question, it's more of a discussion-type question, which is not on topic on SE sites. Please see the help sections for more information about what questions are on-topic on the site. Hi, and welcome! Though this is an interesting question, it's more of [a discussion-...


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Asking for sources For users with reputation (not new users): This is an interesting statement: "Xxxx" Could you please add a reference/source to support it? People might like to do further reading on this subject. Thanks! "Xxxx." Could you please support your claims with some sources? The SE model is for verifiable answers. While we value ...


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Edited to add: D'oh! These aren't very Parenting.SE specific, sorry. :-( I'm not exactly sure how to do this (I am tech-challenged). But I have some that I use often enough to copy & paste. (I often play with them as needed.) Please feel free to improve the wording. For new users with Answer problems: Hi and welcome. Unlike forums which encourage ...


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I wanted to wait a few days, hoping to get some others involved in the discussion, and at least one has so far; but here's my thoughts. My feeling on comments here is that, for the most part, they're fine. We have a more discursive environment than, say, StackOverflow, and that's also fine. Certainly Parenting is going to lead to more discussions. ...


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