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I would like to volunteer as Moderator for ParentingSE. I have come to care about the community here as well as appreciate the resource it offers. I like to think I have already contributed in positive ways through asking, answering, review and editing as well as commenting on the site itself, but also by being involved in meta discussions and ...


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Anongoodnurse, thank you for your service for the site. It's unfortunate that circumstances are as they are these days, but very much understandable that you feel as you do. We haven't always seen eye to eye on things, but you've always had the site's best interests in mind while serving as moderator, and your efforts have been very important in keeping ...


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You're right, our off-topic list includes sex. However, this is generally interpreted as questions related to how to become pregnant, or those that don't have anything to do with a parent-child issue. (Ref. sex, sexual-education, sexual-development...) An adult child asking how to discuss sleeping arrangements when visiting their parents with their partner, ...


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I have been active on Parenting SE for 3 and half years now, visiting the site for at least 5 days a week, with 5th highest rep on the site (11k from 271 answers.) With 3 kids I think I'm reasonably knowledgeable on the subject matter for the site, and have a very practical and no-nonsense approach to parenting. I have also taught children of various ages (...


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In a word, no. You guys are getting more users to the site, growing a lot of those visitors to participate and gain more rep, and trending upward. (click for a silly big version) I have been playing around with participation stats recently, and have been looking at how many users use the site regularly. In these graphs I am counting active users as ...


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I didn't even see your answer until this meta post. My major problem with your answer is that you mostly didn't. The question was: I'm wondering if there are some kid-friendly videos I can show her that won't make her feel like she's in school? Or just anything else to teach her about what non-white people have been through. She's knowledgeable about the ...


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Bottom line, up front, the downvotes to this post probably result directly from the fact that you openly call members, active, readily available, helpful members of this community, trolls. That, in itself, is a recipe for disaster on any website on the internet, much more on a website dedicated to parenting where we've dealt with being insulted by our very ...


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Yes, it's acceptable. I don't have to like it, but free speech is free speech. Excellent question, and a difficult one! This is a prime example of how our site is much more subjective than other SE sites. I don't think we can decide that people are not allowed to post certain content, even if we disagree with that content. Censorship is a slippery slope ...


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I've locked the post until a consensus can be come to. In general, such substantive edits should not be made without the author's consent. Personally, I felt in this case that an unfiltered experience is important to share, and may be helpful to someone in the future, even if it's uncomfortable to read. If you disagree with the conclusions, you should ...


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In my experience moderators moderate moderators. Not much can be done from mere mortals' positions. That leaves you with 2 choices: 1) voice your views and hope they'll be considered or 2) do not participate. Moderators are by-and-large excellent at what they do — it's volunteer work and they invest a lot of time. Sometimes, though, hubris gets to ...


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Thanks for everyone's support and confidence, and I hope to be a helpful member of the moderating team for years to come! I hope everyone will join me in thanking Erica in her hard work on behalf of the site, and wish her well both as a member of the community and in everything that she does!


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I am new to Parenting.se, but not to SE in general. My profile at EL&U is shown below. I am here daily, and am willing to do far more here. Although I'm not sure I meet the criteria of being consistently awesome in the way that I interact with users, I believe I am pretty fair and even-handed. I am very familiar with the SE model and with its theory of ...


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If you read her entire post it is well balanced, definitely not a rant in any way. She was obviously sensitive enough to others that she was worried in case it did come across that way, hence the disclaimer. I'd suggest the post could be improved simply by removing that last line - it isn't a rant, and in fact is a well thought out post. Excluding the ...


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I can think of a variety of reasons that an OP might want to restrict answers in some fashion. Attempting to create a community wiki (your 1st example) Reinforcing existing standards, particularly for a topic which may be prone to strong feelings-based answers providing objective answers (your 2nd example) not arguing with the premise (e.g. "I'm not ...


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I believe these questions are not suitable for this site at all. I'm very sorry that the OP of that question is going through this and I understand the desire of the community to help, but this is outside our scope and outside of the realm of help we can reasonably provide. These questions are really requests for medical help where the OP may or may not ...


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I think renaming the site to something like Family Dynamics would be a lot more misleading than Parenting. First, from the tour page: Parenting Stack Exchange is a question and answer site for parents, grandparents, nannies and others with a parenting role. IE: anyone with a parenting role, regardless of if they are an actual parent (or a parent of ...


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You are outstanding in every respect and one of the few true experts on the Stack Exchange Network. I fully understand why you resign, the events also made it impossible for me to contribute to SE any longer. But it's no doubt a huge loss for SE. Your answers are exemplary, with persoanl anecdotes and backed up with research. Always full of insight and ...


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I'd like to throw my hat into the ring. I've been active on here practically since the beginning and really enjoy this community. My parenting experience is fairly broad: I have a daughter with cerebral palsy, an adopted son with ADHD, and another younger daughter. We were foster parents for a year, which included quite a bit of training, and fostered ...


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As the moderator of two sites with a pretty large overlap (Space Exploration and Astronomy), I thought I'd leave you some advice that was given to me. Beofett has already touched on this, but I figure any extra advice is welcome: It is ok if some posts that come on Parenting would also be on topic on Relationships & Dating and vice versa. What matters ...


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I feel that in the linked case (and similar cases) the answer should stay. Typically, voting will correctly adjust visibility of the answer up/down appropriately. The answerer was attempting to answer the question - they were trying to adjust the point of view to show that perhaps the parent was approaching the issue in the wrong way, which is a perfectly ...


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Answer #1: experience as a question asker. NOTE: I tried to ask as many questions as possible. While I obviously was motivated by crass material rewards, I tried to ask even after reaching the required count to have the experiment work - I posted a total of 38 questions, 23 of them eligible for the contest, 11 of which after I already reached 14 required ...


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Looks like a SCRAPER to me. I've reported it to StackExchange staff. In the future, feel free to either post here or to do so directly yourself: A site (or scraper) is copying content from Stack Exchange. What do I do? Basically it's just: use the contact us link, submit the URL of the fraudulent question, the URL of the real question, and any ...


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Absolutely! Feedback on what worked and what didn't is very welcome! Perhaps the best way is to edit your original question to include an update. This not only puts questions back on the front page for those who didn't see them the first time, but with an update, we have new appreciation for what might work for someone else. I think it would be a very ...


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To address your larger question, if you want the direction of moderation to change, you have to step up. For those of us who prefer a lighter hand, we get burned out. That's why I am not very involved any more. When moderator elections come up, volunteer. Use flags, meta, and and the moderation tools available to all users. There's a lot you can do. On ...


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By definition, spam is unsolicited. I think if it comes as an answer to a relevant question, that qualifies as not being unsolicited. I sort of see the problem as like this xkcd comic (language warning). Who cares if their intent is advertising if they're writing helpful and constructive answers? I think that's why you saw the answer as okay-to-leave and ...


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I would suggest that the tag be limited to questions about sex-the-activity, including from your list: Sexual intercourse for parents Teen children interested in sex Masturbation Childhood sex play Events that may have been sexual in nature But not including: Sexuality and sexual orientation - conevert to sexual-orientation or similar Sex education - ...


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