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Yes, it's acceptable. I don't have to like it, but free speech is free speech. Excellent question, and a difficult one! This is a prime example of how our site is much more subjective than other SE sites. I don't think we can decide that people are not allowed to post certain content, even if we disagree with that content. Censorship is a slippery slope ...


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By definition, spam is unsolicited. I think if it comes as an answer to a relevant question, that qualifies as not being unsolicited. I sort of see the problem as like this xkcd comic (language warning). Who cares if their intent is advertising if they're writing helpful and constructive answers? I think that's why you saw the answer as okay-to-leave and ...


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I agree with @Erica that this question is on topic. Whether we realize it or not, psychology influences every aspect of our parenting. How to discipline, how to praise effectively, how to show love, at what age children develop, say, the concept of object permanence, death, self... this list is as extensive as the research that has been done. We don't know ...


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I agree that it is on-topic for parenting. While the topic is not necessarily direct parenting (as opposed to, say, how to feed a newborn), understanding childhood development and it's associated psychological background is useful. In general, information such as that helps parents become aware of the long-term (and usually unanticipated) effects of their ...


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Ref. Are moderators required to report users younger than 13? In a nutshell, as a SE user, you bring it to a moderator's attention, the moderator then brings it to a community manager's attention.


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Rewritten in an attempt to better fit the format of a suggested practice I would like to suggest that Yes, frame challenges should be accepted, but as with any other answer, they must be written in the spirit of providing helpful guidance to the asker - ParentingSE is not, after all a discussion forum. My issues with current practice: Unnecessarily broad ...


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The rules of participation are very clear where age is concerned: You must be at least 13 or 16 if you’re in the EU. We moderators do enforce these rules. You can check this post on Meta SE for more details. That said, if the child in question is old enough to participate, we do welcome posts by children. There are plenty of examples already on the site. I ...


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For the most part, I think that would be considered on topic, although this might not be the best place to post such a question. Interpersonal Skills also can answer questions of that nature when they're not particularly parenting-focused, and will likely get more attention from a more heavily trafficked site. The question Stephie linked would probably ...


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The question itself I don't feel is a medical question, and so I think it's appropriate. It's not asking "is this medical thing safe", or "is my child sick", or "how should I treat my child". It's asking, "Given I want to help my child [do something health-related], how can I help get her cooperation in doing that?" ...


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No. I feel that tax questions are off-topic here. They are much more related to personal finance than to parenting. This Parenting site exists to help make us better parents, and deducting tax from daycare doesn't make a difference in how we raise our children. Someone could propose that a particular family is so strapped for money that they can only ...


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I agree with everything Beofett says in his answer up until the statement, "Down-vote them if you think they offer harmful advice." In general, I have understood the policy on voting to be that it is up to the user how to apply down-votes etc, but that generally reserving down-votes for questions and answers that are poorly formed or unsubstantiated is what ...


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In general, I think that a question from a child's perspective (or a question from a child but asked from the parent's perspective) is valid. Both as parents in our own families, and as a parenting community, I would find it highly problematic to outright ignore questions that children have about how this relationship should work. However, in this specific ...


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I agree with Beofett's approach on how to handle these questions, I just want to additionally point out that whether a point of view is "political" or not depends highly on the context. A post advising someone on an individual parenting decision in their own home is apolitical. The same post advising a law be passed that forces that same decision on ...


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Absolutely. If you look in the Related sidebar to the right, you will see we have a few meta posts on this already. From our Help page: What topics can I ask about here? We welcome questions on topics like these: matters of upbringing, safety considerations, food and feeding, health and hygiene, development and growth, language development, behavior and ...


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Yes, you can ask about issues with your parents. Although it is not specified in our list of site scope, it has been done often, and falls under matters of upbringing. For example, see this question and this one and their answers. These types of questions tend to be less well received (the main focus here is how to proceed with parenting), but being ...


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tl;dr: Yes, good frame challenges are ok. But ideally also try to provide a non-frame challenge answer. I agree with dxh's answer that a good, respectful frame challenge can be very valuable. However, a problem with frame challenge answers (as pointed out in other answers) is that they can be taken as an attack on the premises and beliefs expressed in the ...


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Based on our Help Page, I would say a general no, crystallised in this line: Parenting Stack Exchange is for parents, grandparents, nannies and others who care for children And while I don't wish this on anyone, I don't think we have really looked at whether or not this site can give advice on caring for parents who have, for whatever reason, reverted in ...


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I prefer to use the rule, "would I ask this question of an acquaintance at the playground". In general, what this means is that several factors weigh: Severity. If the answer is "No", and you don't see a doctor, and it turns out you probably should have, what are the downsides? If it's significant, then it's medical advice. Urgency. If this is an ...


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Persnoally I feel that such questions should be on-topic. They are very close in spirit to developmental questions. For both, the best expert answer can be provided by pediatrician and the second by someone familiar with research and literature on the topic. They do not require expert level medical opinion, since they don't deal with specific child's ...


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The sum of all fears on our Software Recommendations site is that guerrilla marketers will follow the quality guidelines to the letter and contribute good content while doing their evil deed. To that, I basically say, mission accomplished (as XKCD did). If you want to relax a little and allow these, I'm mostly for it, especially when it comes to keeping new ...


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This site decided (in the closed beta phase) that questions should be off-topic if they sound like "what product is best for X" or "where can I buy product Y at the lowest price". The reason is that a product that was on the market two years ago probably doesn't exist any more, so such an answer would not hold value in the long run (and this site intends ...


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I would say maybe. We've taken many questions from children (either adults or otherwise) with regards to dealing with their parents. However, the key aspect of those questions is that the parent-child relationship has to be integral to those questions. IE. if that relationship was not there, the question would be totally different. So I believe a good ...


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I don't think that would be a good question here, but I don't think it's mostly off topic. Read below the break for how to make it on topic, in my opinion. It's totally fine to ask a question specific to one area here; "too localized" was removed as a reason for not being topical about five years ago. You're less likely to get a good answer the ...


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I’m afraid, no. For multiple reasons, actually. First, it’s too localized. As a German user, I had to look up what a “529” is. And you point out that it’s even more localized than “in the US”. Remember that we have an international user base. Then I noticed it’s about finances - and while financial topics are ok when related raising your children (e.g. “How ...


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In my opinion, that is spam unless proven otherwise - specifically, unless coming from a user with multiple on-topic non-recommending posts. Two specific reasons: That is a link recommendation from a user with no past history. That suggests spam already, and is why many forums have rules requiring, say, 20 posts before a link is allowed. I like that rule; ...


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