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I would like to volunteer as Moderator for ParentingSE. I have come to care about the community here as well as appreciate the resource it offers. I like to think I have already contributed in positive ways through asking, answering, review and editing as well as commenting on the site itself, but also by being involved in meta discussions and ...


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I didn't even see your answer until this meta post. My major problem with your answer is that you mostly didn't. The question was: I'm wondering if there are some kid-friendly videos I can show her that won't make her feel like she's in school? Or just anything else to teach her about what non-white people have been through. She's knowledgeable about the ...


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Bottom line, up front, the downvotes to this post probably result directly from the fact that you openly call members, active, readily available, helpful members of this community, trolls. That, in itself, is a recipe for disaster on any website on the internet, much more on a website dedicated to parenting where we've dealt with being insulted by our very ...


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In my experience moderators moderate moderators. Not much can be done from mere mortals' positions. That leaves you with 2 choices: 1) voice your views and hope they'll be considered or 2) do not participate. Moderators are by-and-large excellent at what they do — it's volunteer work and they invest a lot of time. Sometimes, though, hubris gets to ...


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To address your larger question, if you want the direction of moderation to change, you have to step up. For those of us who prefer a lighter hand, we get burned out. That's why I am not very involved any more. When moderator elections come up, volunteer. Use flags, meta, and and the moderation tools available to all users. There's a lot you can do. On ...


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I'd like to throw my hat into the ring. I've been active on here practically since the beginning and really enjoy this community. My parenting experience is fairly broad: I have a daughter with cerebral palsy, an adopted son with ADHD, and another younger daughter. We were foster parents for a year, which included quite a bit of training, and fostered ...


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By definition, spam is unsolicited. I think if it comes as an answer to a relevant question, that qualifies as not being unsolicited. I sort of see the problem as like this xkcd comic (language warning). Who cares if their intent is advertising if they're writing helpful and constructive answers? I think that's why you saw the answer as okay-to-leave and ...


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I would like to be considered for becoming a moderator. Here is a list of my qualifying factors: I'm a Parent I am a parent of 2, a boy and a girl. I will have a broadening range of parenting perspectives across both genders as they continue to get older. I love being a parent. Watching them grow brings me continual joy. My Family is Multi-Cultural My ...


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The edit was handled appropriately. I don't think it was handled spectacularly, but it wasn't inappropriate. #1: Removing a chunk of an answer. I've done this fairly often, actually (before I was appointed moderator, too). If a section of an otherwise constructive answer is off-topic, snarky, argues with the premise, etc., then I'll take it out (edit reason ...


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If you're being bullied by a regular user, flag the comments and moderators will intervene. If you're concerned about a moderator rather than a regular user, you may still raise a flag; moderators will not handle flags about their own activity. If you're concerned about them being aware of it, or need additional help beyond what the moderation team can or ...


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As discussed at length on that question and chat, there were many issues with the approach you took. There is no personal subjectivity from the mods here - the guidelines we have given are very simple, and it appears that you just do not want to follow them: Your initial question was flagged by the community and closed by a mod as a rant that did not meet ...


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what to do about overreaching moderation? You have 5 options (only 3 realistic): Learn to pipe down and accept the status quo. Leave the site. That was what I chose. Ironically - my problems with moderation on this site had 100% nothing in common with the issue specifically raised by the OP, and on this specific Meta topic {{answers opposing OP's premise}...


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As a general rule, I would recommend giving someone time to edit. My usual rule of thumb would be something like a day for a site like this. I don't feel it is particularly fair to not give someone an opportunity to fix their mistake. That being said, I can also see the other side of the coin here. Your answer didn't really address the question and wasn'...


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I sincerely appreciate the positive reactions I've received. I tell myself it's not because I might finally stop nagging people but rather because I've actually done something to help keep things nice around here! :-) Don't worry, I won't disappear. I'll still be around, I'll still participate. I know that my reputation points grant me access to the ...


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I am a relatively new member of the community, but since I became one I visited this site every day. And since I visit it anyway, I apparently have the time to do it:) I read all questions that appear on the site and most of new answers - I will be able to react if there is a problem with any of those. I don't fit the parenting experience requirement - but ...


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Migration is intended to happen when a question is off topic for the site on which it was first asked, but it could be salvaged by being posted on a different site. Encouraging a child in an activity is completely on topic for parenting. Just because you believe to could get better answers elsewhere (which, incidentally, is a gamble) is not a reason to ...


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The user you discussed with is not my sockpuppet account. Whenever a comment is posted to a question or answer, the poster gets notified. in this case, that was me. I sometimes did follow the link in my recent inbox message, which is probably why you found me popping up in that chatroom for a short moment. To add an answer to your question: For sure, mods ...


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Comments are for clarification, that's it, really, especially on an HNQ, which can get 40+ comments. Your comment was partly asking for clarification and mostly an answer (by suggestion and by direct answer), so it was moved to chat with the others. Every comment after a thread has been moved to chat is deleted, especially meta comments like "Why was my ...


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As the editor, I'm glad you brought this up, because you're right, it has the appearance of impropriety, and the community deserves an explanation. I'll address other issues first. You may already be aware of much of this information. Issue #1: A chunk of the answer was edited out. The Stack Exchange model encourages succinct and accurate responses to ...


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The sum of all fears on our Software Recommendations site is that guerrilla marketers will follow the quality guidelines to the letter and contribute good content while doing their evil deed. To that, I basically say, mission accomplished (as XKCD did). If you want to relax a little and allow these, I'm mostly for it, especially when it comes to keeping new ...


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The number of parenting questions which can potentially concern themselves with cannibalism, slavery, rape, abortion, or gay marriage is unsurprisingly somewhat limited. We aren't Law, History, or Philosophy. However, some examples are easily found with a quick search: There are two questions about rape (how to explain it to a young child, how to help a ...


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Comming at this "raw" as it were, I've read through the full transcript (and as a mod I do have full visibility of deleted content as well) and some thoughts from me: I understand your point, that you weren't posting "offensive" content, however those comments are considered emotionally charged by the majority, and in a comment context are at best ...


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Comments are not the place for answers. Encouraging answers in the comments in any setting is just teaching people (especially new users in this case) that it is ok. It also shows that when we are protecting a question it really doesn't do much. It just forces new users to answer in comments instead of the answer box. It's not much of a moderation tool ...


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No, I don't believe they should. I think this is an issue likely related to hot network questions, troll offerings, or trigger-type questions, the handling of which reflects on our community as a whole. Having highly emotional and negative comments - which are likely on the above type questions - gives this site an "anything goes" atmosphere, not one of ...


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I'll begin by noting that deletion is not permanent. Answers can be undeleted (flag as "other" to attract attention, if necessary). With that in mind, a delay in deleting is more a courtesy than necessity. That courtesy is important, though, and I respect the time invested in an answer even if that answer could use revision. However, sometimes other issues ...


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You have only asked one question on Parenting: Why do people want to have kids? Those with enough rep will be able to see the entire question. It was deleted automatically by the system for its negative score and lack of activity. Plain and simply, the question asked did not fit with our format on this site. It doesn't matter if a similar question was asked ...


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As a site grows, I think it becomes harder for a mod to spot troll posts due to the volume of posts - that said, we get to follow the flags, so we rely on a larger number of people flagging. As you will be well aware, on Parenting we arrive with a certain element of belief, as we want to help folks more if they are in very difficult situations, but the ...


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the only recourse for the average user is to simply abandon it. And that's not a good outcome. I agree that this is not a good outcome. However, it is not the only recourse. Options are outlined in What can an SE participant do when s/he feels personally attacked by a specific moderator? and What recourse do I have if I believe a moderator has abused his/...


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