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I'm going to quote from your answer: Ready for the happy ending? The SE Team member, as a neutral third party, was able to look at the situation objectively, recognize my good intentions and my willingness to continue to learn and improve my effectiveness as a SE participant, and have a respectfully critical talk with the moderator I was in so much ...


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I didn't even see your answer until this meta post. My major problem with your answer is that you mostly didn't. The question was: I'm wondering if there are some kid-friendly videos I can show her that won't make her feel like she's in school? Or just anything else to teach her about what non-white people have been through. She's knowledgeable about the ...


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No one likes downvotes. But I believe we need anonymous downvotes for a variety of reasons. Users often state that explanations of down votes will help them learn to post better questions/answers, and this may very well be true for some users. However, much more often the user feels unjustly attacked. Few people honestly want to hear that their post is ...


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There is a StackExchange Meta post about this: What recourse do I have if I believe a moderator has abused his/her privileges? There are a variety of possible approaches that depend on the situation. I'd recommend going in this order: Ask about it on meta, e.g. Why was my question closed? or I don't understand what was wrong with my answer. Not only does ...


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articulate how far an editor may go in changing content and style, and how far an author (participant) may go in restoring content and style In many ways, we're completely unlike the world of publishing. Once you contribute an answer, it isn't "yours" anymore. Thinking of this like you might a book (or better, a blog, in which you're providing a sequence of ...


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Please note that the only reason your suspension is being publicly discussed is because you have publicly requested an explanation. I don't typically share moderator actions about users with the rest of the community; therefore, any suspension, private mod message, or other "punishment" that another user may or may not have gotten is irrelevant to the ...


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As discussed at length on that question and chat, there were many issues with the approach you took. There is no personal subjectivity from the mods here - the guidelines we have given are very simple, and it appears that you just do not want to follow them: Your initial question was flagged by the community and closed by a mod as a rant that did not meet ...


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If you're being bullied by a regular user, flag the comments and moderators will intervene. If you're concerned about a moderator rather than a regular user, you may still raise a flag; moderators will not handle flags about their own activity. If you're concerned about them being aware of it, or need additional help beyond what the moderation team can or ...


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I would suggest a looking at things rather differently. If what I am doing is not appreciated by the people charged with running some kind of activity, I try to look at my own behavior objectively and see what it is that is aggravating the situation. Maybe I don't understand the expectations of this particular environment; maybe it's just not really the ...


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The rudeness appeared in a comment thread under one of the answers to this question. You're misrepresenting the situation considerably. When someone is being disruptive on the site, and are told by a moderator to stop their disruptive activity but don't, instead accelerating it, there is nothing good coming down the pike. I don't consider criticizing ...


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The rules of participation are very clear where age is concerned: You must be at least 13 or 16 if you’re in the EU. We moderators do enforce these rules. You can check this post on Meta SE for more details. That said, if the child in question is old enough to participate, we do welcome posts by children. There are plenty of examples already on the site. I ...


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The initial action you can take is to flag as "spam or offensive" which will not only notify mods, but will automatically remove it given enough flags. Also down vote any posts that deserve a down vote. Then come and let us know in chat - that will also get it in front of high rep folks who can possibly get rid of it without any mod interaction. Then, as ...


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Stack Exchange has a general policy which is that comments are to request or give updates, to clarify. Not for discussion or conversation! This holds especially true on Parenting, where it is all too easy to end up in a long and unconstructive discussion. Here, we shift them into a chat room or delete them outright. This is a mod role, or if there are too ...


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Stack Exchange is explicitly not blog-like, and not discussion-focused, and while some SE sites do have their own blog, this is by no means the norm, and in fact the process for creating new SE blogs has been discontinued. The huge advantage SE has over discussion-based forums is the way writers have to move away from discussion and opinion in order to ...


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A quick addition to @anongoodnurse's post: Stack Exchange has deliberately implemented anonymous downvoting. This is not an accident. This canonical question over on meta.SE has gained a lot of interest (with nearly 900 upvotes) asking for a way to prompt people who may not realise they can leave a comment, but there is definitely no interest in mandating ...


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You have only asked one question on Parenting: Why do people want to have kids? Those with enough rep will be able to see the entire question. It was deleted automatically by the system for its negative score and lack of activity. Plain and simply, the question asked did not fit with our format on this site. It doesn't matter if a similar question was asked ...


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Your post was very much off topic here. 3 of your questions in that post require legal guidance, and the other has to be answered by the head teacher. So at best it would be put on hold and closed here. File charges? Should/can I file assault charges? Speak to a lawyer. Who pays the medical bills? I do not feel we should have to pay the medical ...


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Users can only edit comments for a limited period of time (I believe some handful of minutes). However, moderators can edit comments at any time, so I fixed your typo for you :)


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This site is part of a network called Stack Exchange. As a single site, there is nothing a moderator can do to implement such a change. This would need to be a network-wide option, and as such should be proposed on Stack Exchange's Meta site. For individuals who want anonymity, one can always create a new account under a different name. Simply log out of ...


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Unfortunately, this site (like all Internet sites) cannot be a stand in for professional support in cases like this. So while we can be sympathetic, we don't have the capability to assist. Accordingly, the question is closed and referred to CM's for potential referral to more useful avenues.


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Yes. Beta sites have lower requirements for privileges, in order to let the site self manage effectively.


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Based on our Help Page, I would say a general no, crystallised in this line: Parenting Stack Exchange is for parents, grandparents, nannies and others who care for children And while I don't wish this on anyone, I don't think we have really looked at whether or not this site can give advice on caring for parents who have, for whatever reason, reverted in ...


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I don't downvote for content, so one downvote you got was from me because of the framing of the answer. Given the OP's comment on your answer that he felt it attacked the premise of the question, that is a likely source of a second downvote. A third was for "ignoring the actual question" (ref. DanBeale's answer below). So that's at least 3/4 because of the ...


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A key question with anecdote is how directly topical it is. The original Question is broadly about discipline, but really focuses on what to do when a child self-selects a punishment which is overly draconian. When he genuinely feels bad about something he's done wrong and we tell him off, he will sometimes "punish" himself by giving us his ...


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By now you should have a pretty good sense that a moderator's edit is something you should at least take a little bit of time to think about. I'm not saying they're all perfect; I'm just saying you should ask yourself if there's something to be learned from it. Comparing your answers to those of others who routinely contribute in a manner consistent with ...


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I think one could create a query in: http://data.stackexchange.com/parenting/queries I modified this one to span over 36 months: http://data.stackexchange.com/parenting/query/edit/194173 And got this graph: Apparently, we are seeing a slow but almsot constant increase in questions since April 2013. If this continues linearly, we'll hit the recommended ...


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These are ways to handle users who aren't behaving appropriately, but they all need at least 5 reputation. The flag system (15 rep). (In this case, "rude or abusive".) Downvote (125 rep). If enough users downvote an answer and flag it as abusive, it becomes hidden (for users who aren't very high rep) and eventually the system will automatically ...


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Hi and welcome to the site. This is a common question on all the sites. Site wide, one must earn 10 reputation on the specific site you wish to post an answer on. The 100 point association bonus doesn't count toward the rep needed to answer a protected question. The question is addressed on Meta.SE: Users with 10 or more reputation can answer a ...


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