In this question about getting a child to wear a CPAP mask, I've written an answer that was deleted as not an answer. Moderator encouraged me to have this contested in meta to get the community's take on the issue.
I suppose many of you can read deleted answers, and come to your own conclusion, but for those of you who can't, my response consisted of:
- An elaborate explanation of the reasons why what OP has tried so far hasn't worked, in general terms and with references to OP's particular situation. I believe the emphasis on this part is mainly what lead the moderator to object that I'm not answering the question. I think coming to this understanding will be immensely useful for OP on its own, but I agree that leaving it at that would not constitute an answer.
- One paragraph about finding out the root cause of the problem. About how there may be more to the issue than the parent first assumes, and about how regardless of whether the parent's initial assumptions turn out to be accurate, it is meaningful to include the child in this work, so that the child knows that they're heard and their needs are taken into consideration.
- One paragraph about how the solution must be a product of what is discovered in the previous step. Even if it does turn out to be only an issue about how the mask is uncomfortable (which I think is a premature assumption at this point), there is tellingly nothing in OP's question about how to make the mask less uncomfortable.
I think (well, obviously) that having access to this answer would be preferable to OP and to others in the same situation finding the question, over not having it. I am posting here to follow the moderator's direction to contest the deletion in meta.
My understanding (with reservation that I may not be the best advocate of their view) is that the deleting moderator would have liked to see me go even further in suggesting concrete actions, for the response to constitute a real answer, but I would argue that that would be to negate my main points. That's not what I or OP should be engaging in, ahead of finding out the facts.
Curious as to whether the community agrees that no response is preferable to the attempted response.